our mind seeks out proof for what we already believe
The other day I read something:
“our mind seeks out proof for what we already believe”
So if we believe we are not enough, the mind will quietly gather evidence… with an unanswered call… a delayed reply.
It builds a case. But if we believe we are capable, it does the same. Then the small success becomes confirmation and a compliment actually lands. A risk can feel brave instead of foolish.
I've read that our mind therefore is less a neutral observer and more a devoted lawyer, tirelessly defending the story we have already chosen…
And that is both terrifying and liberating.
Terrifying, because it means we can live inside narratives that were never objectively true… stories shaped by childhood, by fear, in my case oftentimes by a careless sentence someone once said.
But liberating, because if the mind is constantly collecting proof, then the quality of our life depends on the belief we hand it in the first place and the importance of it.
Change the premise, and the evidence rearranges itself.
Which doesn’t mean ignoring pain or pretending everything is perfect. Like if one door closes a better one opens. It means becoming curious about the stories we run automatically. Asking:
Is this fact or is it just familiar?
Once we notice that our mind seeks confirmation more than truth, we gain a small but powerful distance from it. We can choose differently by offering a new belief to work with. And maybe some things begin to look differently… not because reality shifted, but because our perspective did.
Model: Sikhokhele Tyhali
Agency: Twenty Model Management
